Seriously a lawyer getting disbarred for trying to help you?
Actually, that makes perfect sense. If a party to a suit speaks with an attorney about the suit, even if that attorney is not hired, that attorney (and any attorney in that firm) cannot represent the other party. So if, as she said, her ex-husband contacted every attorney about the divorce, no attorney could represent her because the "other party" created a conflict.
The attorney who represented her after meeting with her husband broke the Rules of Professional Responsibility. Violating the Rules can result in disbarment. The disbarment in question probably wasn't permanent, but a temporary disbarment is a reasonable punishment, especially if the attorney in question knowingly violated.
The entire town turning against you for how you raise your daughter?
Again, this makes since. Small towns have a tendency to be insular, and people do take sides on issues. If her ex-husband is known in the town, the divorce would get a lot of attention.
Your daughter suddenly turning on you after being taken from your custody?
I didn't get the impression that her daughter had turned on her. (I may have missed something, though.) It just seemed to me that she lost custody of her daughter and the daughter is now living with her ex.