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Dating and Age
« on: January 06, 2013, 12:46:35 pm »
I've been wondering what other people think about this, partially out of curiosity and partially because my friend is looking to date a woman who's ten years older than him. For me, I wouldn't want my partner to be more than five years older than me. I think that's because of me worrying about differences between generations, but also not wanting to be widowed so darn early. (I can't date someone five years younger -- I'm 21 and that'd be weird.) With other people, I tend to view it on a case-by-case basis, though I think more than ~20 years difference has the potential to cause to a lot of relationship issues. What do you guys think?

Note: The "Love knows no bounds" option does not include folks who are underage. By choosing that option, you're not endorsing a 50-year-old dating a 12-year-old.
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Re: Dating and Age
« Reply #1 on: January 06, 2013, 12:49:16 pm »
Personally I wouldn't want that huge of a difference (5 years most), BUT I have known some happy couples that were like 10-15 years apart.
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Re: Dating and Age
« Reply #2 on: January 06, 2013, 12:50:36 pm »
I'd personally pick the "love knows no bounds" option if there was a stipulation that it excluded underage people.  You can potentially have a successful relationship with anyone you're willing to commit enough time and effort to, but it's important to keep in mind that people at different stages in life will most likely have different, sometimes even conflicting goals and values. 

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Re: Dating and Age
« Reply #3 on: January 06, 2013, 12:55:54 pm »
I'd personally pick the "love knows no bounds" option if there was a stipulation that it excluded underage people.  You can potentially have a successful relationship with anyone you're willing to commit enough time and effort to, but it's important to keep in mind that people at different stages in life will most likely have different, sometimes even conflicting goals and values. 

Good point. I'll make a note of that.
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Re: Dating and Age
« Reply #4 on: January 06, 2013, 01:03:16 pm »
I went with the "love knows no bounds" option, because as long they're both consenting adults, I could care less. Through personally, it does seem a bit awkward when there's a big age difference. You have no idea how many people I've developed a crush on who are around 18, but I feel like a "cougar" for having the said crush.

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Re: Dating and Age
« Reply #5 on: January 06, 2013, 01:10:14 pm »
I think it also depends on the age of the people when they meet.  For example, 10 years may seem like a big difference when you're in your teens or twenties, but not so much if you meet when your both in like your 40s/50s/60s.
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Re: Dating and Age
« Reply #6 on: January 06, 2013, 01:51:51 pm »
I think it also depends on the age of the people when they meet.  For example, 10 years may seem like a big difference when you're in your teens or twenties, but not so much if you meet when your both in like your 40s/50s/60s.
This. If you're 18, don't go 4yrs younger. One or two maybe, but not four.

My personal rule is nobody that wasn't in high school at the same time I was, so about 4yrs or so.
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Re: Dating and Age
« Reply #7 on: January 06, 2013, 01:54:28 pm »
As long as everyone involved is a consenting adult I don't care how big the age difference is.
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Re: Dating and Age
« Reply #8 on: January 06, 2013, 03:07:48 pm »
I agree with the, "As long as they consenting adults" part, though personally, I think I'd feel to awkard if there difference for me was more than 10 years either way. 
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« Reply #9 on: January 06, 2013, 03:16:57 pm »
I don't see why it should be anyone's business provided that all involved can consent and do so.
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Re: Dating and Age
« Reply #10 on: January 06, 2013, 03:26:23 pm »
Obligatory "Half your age plus seven."

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Re: Dating and Age
« Reply #11 on: January 06, 2013, 03:30:46 pm »
For those of you stating "as long as they are consenting adults," would you apply that to yourself, as well? That you'd be willing to date any legal age, that is.
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Re: Dating and Age
« Reply #12 on: January 06, 2013, 03:47:18 pm »
Obligatory "Half your age plus seven."
Oddly enough, if you actually stop and run the numbers at various 'benchmark' points in your life it works out pretty well for putting you in an age range where you would likely have enough commonality to make a relationship work. I'm a proponent for any consenting adults to go and enjoy themselves, but realistically too large an age difference often means different priorities, different social circles, and different ideas of fun which can put a strain on a relationship.

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Re: Dating and Age
« Reply #13 on: January 06, 2013, 04:24:47 pm »
Half + 7, always.

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Re: Dating and Age
« Reply #14 on: January 06, 2013, 05:10:42 pm »
Me personally? 1-3 years, not much more than that. In general? I might find it a little weird if a 50 year old is with a 20 year old or something, but it's really none of my business.