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Title: Valentine's Day
Post by: Sleepy on February 08, 2012, 10:46:09 pm
With Valentine's Day coming up next week, I thought it'd be interesting to see where people stand on this matter. I know a lot of people feel strongly one way or another about the day, so feel free to voice your opinions and further explain here.

Personally, while some aspects of it annoy the hell out of me ("Show her you love her with DIAMONDS!"), it is a nice reminder of the people in your life who you love. Sure, we shouldn't need a reminder, but sometimes it's frighteningly easy to overlook with the fast-paced lives we have.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Dantes Virgil on February 08, 2012, 11:05:17 pm
I think I feel as you do.  :)

I have an instantly bad reaction to anything that declares "You must show your love by doing X, or it's not real!"  (Like buying jewelry.)  But as you mentioned, life goes by too fast, sometimes, and I see nothing wrong with taking some time out to recognize the people you love.  Preferably, though, I try to do it just after V-Day, so I get a massive discount on loads of chocolate...... ;D
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: nickiknack on February 08, 2012, 11:16:16 pm
I really don't care that much either way for Valentine's day. It's just another day to me (most holidays are for me), the only good thing are the sales on  the chocolate & candy, the day after.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Smurfette Principle on February 09, 2012, 12:42:07 am
I put a lot of stock in Valentine's Day, mostly because I have yet to celebrate it with someone I love. I celebrated it once with my first boyfriend, whom I did not love, and I would have celebrated it with my boyfriend in my senior year of high school, but had to go to a scholarship competition instead. So I won't get to celebrate it with him in person until we're both out of college, and maybe even until we're out of graduate school, depending on where we go. So we give each other presents (he got me Warcraft, I got him a Homestuck T-shirt), but we won't get to just snuggle and whatnot for another three years or so.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Her3tiK on February 09, 2012, 03:34:01 am
On principle, I refuse to go out of my way to show affection for someone just because a (gift card) company says to. Granted, I've only celebrated V-Day with one person I was dating (she broke up with me that night), so this could admittedly be due to some kind of bias, but I don't like gifts on Christmas for the same reason.

As far as I'm concerned, if you're with someone and you love them, you should do special things for them regardless of the holiday in question. Regardless of how much my latest ex may hate me, she can't deny that I did a lot of little (and not so little) things for her simply because I felt like it that particular week. With that said, I might try to break my general disdain of V-Day this year to see if that girl I've mentioned elsewhere could spare some time in her schedule to go out to dinner or something*, but even that's likely to be a one-time thing.

*Just had that idea while typing and managed to freak myself out at the prospect. Yay....
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: DarkfireTaimatsu on February 09, 2012, 03:43:19 am
You know what I miss? I miss elementary school, where everyone would have to get valentines for everyone else. At least then, no one was left out.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Art Vandelay on February 09, 2012, 03:49:11 am
I simply don't care. I generally don't like greeting card companies telling me to buy their product on an arbitrary day of the year for an arbitrary reason and I don't know anyone with whom I can get all touchy-feely, so I just ignore it.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Cerim Treascair on February 09, 2012, 04:00:21 am
my specified 'other' answer:  It's nice, if you have someone to share it with... beyond that? it's a good way to get cheap candy afterwards, like christmas and halloween.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Shane for Wax on February 09, 2012, 04:29:41 am
I prefer this instead. Woof. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lupercalia)
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: QueenofHearts on February 09, 2012, 05:40:51 am
I don't really care either way. I personally see it as nothing but a commercial holiday which tries to force people to buy things like chocolates, flowers, or diamonds*. I've also stated before that I am very romantic (I prefer emotional attraction & innocent pleasures with that special someone to be far more important than sex), and in this sense I feel creating a day to show attraction belittles attraction in a way. If I'm truly in love with someone, the day of the year should not matter how or when I express it. However, I see a lot of people looking forward to it and I believe that it does serve them some kind of purpose, even if I don't see the point in it.

*Too bad I'm single, I would really enjoy getting chocolates or flowers   :(
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Podkayne on February 09, 2012, 05:42:23 am
I have just recieved a valentines day cthulu plush for my partner :)
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: RavynousHunter on February 09, 2012, 06:07:22 am
I shouldn't even be awake right now, much less coherent, but I may as well speak my piece.  (Its not gonna be a happy story...)

I've had a very...bad history with Valentine's Day.  Never once did the schools do the "everyone gets Valentines" thing.  The only gifts I ever got were from my parents, and while I don't resent them or dismiss them as unimportant, it was the one time of year I got to see the happy couples around school dote on their paramours with impunity.  As many of you have probably already guessed, I wasn't a kid with a lot of friends.  I was (and, to an extent, still am) a very severe introvert to the point of generally eschewing social interaction because trying to talk to someone sometimes led to panic attacks...  So, this was the most depressing day of the year for me.  I hated when the year would roll over, because I knew that day was near, and I knew I wouldn't have a "special someone" to share it with.  Again.  I longed for that companionship, and that ache turned into severe pain on that day.  It was so bad I...got far closer to being genuinely suicidal than I have at any other time in my life.  I tried desperately to find any way to get out of school during the week-long Valentine's Day celebrations they had...I honestly wished I could come down with some horrible case of the flu or something, just so I could be free from it.

But, these days...it doesn't bother me as much.  Yes, its commercialized, like many other holidays...but its not nearly as bad as it used to be.  Its something I'd actually enjoy celebrating with that special girl in my life.  The bad things...they're in the past.  I wish I could just start over...but, not being able to do that, I can at least try and work toward being a happier person; one that...actually kinda likes Valentine's Day, if for no other reason than finally having someone to share it with.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Jebediah on February 09, 2012, 09:56:57 am
I never cared for it until I started dating someone. Now I feel like it's a pretty nice day.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: GLaDOS on February 09, 2012, 09:58:09 am
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AUjAArpZn6A
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: The Right Honourable Mlle Antéchrist on February 09, 2012, 10:29:57 am
I never cared for it until I started dating someone. Now I feel like it's a pretty nice day.

This, and also what Sleepy said. I've never seen it as a huge deal, but it's kind of nice to exchange gifts and hang out with the person you're with. It does become somewhat silly when people expect one partner (almost always the guy) to set up some big, elaborate night full of saccharine crap, however.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Random Gal on February 09, 2012, 11:00:18 am
I tend to just ignore it. I suppose if I was dating someone I would probably care more though.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: gyeonghwa on February 09, 2012, 05:29:15 pm
I love Valentine's Day, even if I'm single. Why? Because of these:
(http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_17ttrYRiSbc/S3Oi-iKbmZI/AAAAAAAAFfU/ZQ8w8VRj7OY/s320/ss_R112125.jpg)
(http://cdn.solidrecipe.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/Love-heart-Cupcakes-Photos-1.jpg)
(http://loricurie.files.wordpress.com/2011/01/heartpouches-bhg.jpg)
(http://www.xdflower.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/valentine-day-gift-idea-flowers11.jpeg)

And any excuse to throw a dinner party is fine by me.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Her3tiK on February 09, 2012, 05:34:14 pm
I love Valentine's Day, even if I'm single. Why? Because of these:
<snip x4>

And any excuse to throw a dinner party is fine by me.
That may be the single gayest thing I have ever read on this board. Or the old one. ;)
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: The Right Honourable Mlle Antéchrist on February 09, 2012, 09:22:24 pm
I love Valentine's Day, even if I'm single. Why? Because of these:
<snip x4>

And any excuse to throw a dinner party is fine by me.
That may be the single gayest thing I have ever read on this board. Or the old one. ;)

I am so glad I'm not the only one who had that thought. Exalts for both of you.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Lithp on February 09, 2012, 09:31:48 pm
Bah, I've always hated Valentine's Day.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Art Vandelay on February 10, 2012, 02:09:37 am
I love Valentine's Day, even if I'm single. Why? Because of these:
<snip x4>

And any excuse to throw a dinner party is fine by me.
That may be the single gayest thing I have ever read on this board. Or the old one. ;)

I am so glad I'm not the only one who had that thought. Exalts for both of you.

You guys are certainly not alone there.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Sleepy on February 10, 2012, 01:33:09 pm
Like others said, I never cared for the day until I had someone to share it with. I used to absolutely dread the day in high school, where I would see all the cutesy couples parading around, some of the guys getting into a competition to see who could prove their love the best by buying the most expensive gifts. That really made me angry -- people treating it like some sort of contest. But mostly, I was bitter that I was single.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Jebediah on February 10, 2012, 01:45:51 pm
One of the things I love about this holiday: conversation hearts. I heard that Necco is going back to the original recipe. I am so excited.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Lithp on February 10, 2012, 02:55:42 pm
You mean the things that taste like chalk & infuriate Lrr?
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Star Cluster on February 10, 2012, 03:09:08 pm
I'll have to admit, my wife and I like Valentine's Day to an extent.  And actually, we got married as close to the day as possible (12th.)  That was 35 years ago.  We don't buy gifts for each other for either our anniversary or V-Day (or birthdays or Christmas, either, for that matter,) but we'll usually go out to dinner.  We'll most of the time go to an Italian restaurant near us which has a couple of Valentine's Day specials complete with a glass of champagne.  Really good food for a really good price.

But , yeah, if you really love someone, Valentine's Day does normally have a special meaning.  But, then, I guess I'm sort of a romantic.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Jebediah on February 10, 2012, 03:12:01 pm
You mean the things that taste like chalk & infuriate Lrr?

Lrrr is just confused.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: SimSim on February 10, 2012, 03:47:58 pm
I've never really cared one way or the other about Valentine's Day.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Atheissimo on February 10, 2012, 04:16:20 pm
Meh. I view it in much the same way as I view Hanukkah; I'm sure it's lovely for all those involved, but I am not one of those people.

Having never been in a relationship or sent/recieved cards or gifts and the like, it holds just as much practical significance as any other day.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Meshakhad on February 11, 2012, 05:44:43 pm
Eh, I ignore it. Let the lovers have a day for themselves. I'll be busy playing my MASS EFFECT 3 DEMO!
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Mira on February 11, 2012, 05:49:24 pm
Playing Crusader Kings II that day.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: The Right Honourable Mlle Antéchrist on February 14, 2012, 07:11:27 pm
We don't buy gifts for each other for either our anniversary or V-Day (or birthdays or Christmas, either, for that matter,) but we'll usually go out to dinner.

Forgive my sappiness, but I think that setting aside some time to be together is probably the best gift a loving couple can give to one another.

That, and jet packs.
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: Hades on February 14, 2012, 08:25:40 pm
It's only a happy Valentine's day when these appear.

(http://farm2.staticflickr.com/1421/3270420700_7840ee1c31.jpg)
Title: Re: Valentine's Day
Post by: one-shot on February 14, 2012, 10:53:10 pm
I hate Valentine's Day.  And it's not because I'm divorced, single, and sometimes lonely.  I always have.  Even when I was married.  I would do things for my wife, but I still hated the day.  Even just the very idea of the day.  Hm, maybe I'm just bitter and jaded?